Although the third national lockdown is coming to an end and there is finally some light at the end of the tunnel, there’s still been a whole year of our wedding planning journey that’s been in a pandemic, which is probably far from what we all imagined when we first got engaged. It’s hard not to get soaked up in all the press and the news, but one of the key things to remember is that you’ve come this far and are so close to the end so remaining positive and focused is good for the soul. You’ve managed to face all the usual difficulties when planning a wedding, as well as adapting to virtual venue tours, dress shopping from your living room and only being able to watch your band gigging on zoom.
While Key is in the Detail don’t have a magic wand to change the last year, we can spread some magic on what you can be doing going forward to remain excited and positive for the best day ever.
You’re one step closer to marrying the love of your life as each day passes.
It’s okay to be sad
It's not been an easy ride, and some days and more difficult than others. We're unable to see and spend time with family and friends like we usually would, we have had to deal with circumstances we had never needed to think about before and sometimes it just all gets a little too much. Wedding planning alone isn't a breeze, so cut yourself some slack and if you need to be sad, be sad. It's important to express your emotions and know its okay to feel that way. There may be frustration and upset towards certain situations, but always try and see the positives too. It might be hard at first to know what they are, but they will be there, you might just have to look harder.
Communication is key
Although much of our communication is virtual these days, its still important to keep in touch.
Whether you're calling mum to let her know the florist is booked or just need a rant about something to your bridesmaids.
It's not just your loved ones you need to keep in contact with either. Keep your suppliers in the loop. They will be great at helping with any uncertainty you might feel on those down days, they will be in the know with your latest vision and also be able to advise and guide you through all the latest announcements.
Looking after YOU is so important. Often we burn ourselves out by fixating on things that are important to us, and of course naturally for most couples getting married, this is really frequent.
As exciting as wedding planning is, taking regular breaks is good for the mind and can re ignite the excitement when returning to planning after a short break. Learning to say no, managing your time and things such as exercise, eating well and meditation can all contribute to you recharging if you've burnt yourself out. The more self care you implement into your routine, the less burnt out you will be and instead feel less tired, happier and more motivated making it overall a much more enjoyable experience.
Focus on what you want
People will always have opinions, even when you didn't ask for them! However, remember to keep the focus on you and your partner. That's why you are having this wedding, to celebrate your love and your life together afterwards, so focus on what you want, not everyone else. It's easy when planning a wedding to always be thinking about what everyone else will want, whether its the food menu or the cocktail list, naturally as selfless human beings, we are drawn to someone else's opinion.
BUT (and it's a big but) this is not their day, its yours. It's all about you, just for one time only, so lap it up, re adjust your mindset and focus on what you want from the day, what you want to remember and what experience you want your guests to have. Doing this will mean you invest all your energy into those important aspects, and not waste it on things that don't matter to you.
Trust in your suppliers
When you spent hours researching for the best of the best, invested your hard earned cash and added them to your supplier list, there was a reason for that. So trust in them, have faith. Do not worry about things they can take control of, eliminate the stress you have building up and pass it on to them. If you are concerned your stylist will not provide enough candles or your photographer won't get that one shot, communicate it with them, and make it their priority instead of yours. They will always be happy to help, so have a little faith that they will deliver.
Make a list and prioritise
Making a list will really help you put things into perspective when it comes to wedding planning. Whether it's what there is left to do, what's on your mind or something to remember to tell a groomsman, the best thing to do is to write it all down, prioritise it in order of most important and allocate time slots to that point too. This will help you manage your time and see clearly what is left to be done and what can be delegated. Mums, siblings, aunties and next door neighbours all love to be involved with everything, so don't be shy when it comes to asking for help and passing the book. If you're like me and prefer to remain in control yourself, lists lists lists!!
Be kind to everyone, but most importantly, be kind to yourself. This is supposed to be the happiest day of your life, so make sure you are relaxed and enjoying every moment.
If it is all getting a little bit too much, don't be afraid to seek help. Key is in the Detail are always on hand for advice and guidance. Working with a variety of awesome wedding suppliers, chances are, one of us can definitely help you out so you can leave all your worries behind and enjoy getting hitched!